Today there were teddy bears in the clouds

January 12: Today I am grateful for clouds. I went to the beach and I lay on my back looking into our vast, endless, southern sky. The sky darkened late in the afternoon, and a few families packed up their kids, and their plastic paraphernalia and left the sand. I saw several teddy bears in the sky today with plump cheeks and playful eyes. And I saw the torso of a voluptuous woman, and a cat, and a poodle with a big pom-pom tail, and a love heart. The sky's story changed every minute, even sooner when the wind came up, unfolding, swirling, revealing something new, or hiding things from view so I had to guess where they went and what they were doing up there..

January 8,9,10 and 11: I am grateful for skills, driving, coffee and the sunset

January 8: I am grateful for the skills I have that enable me to do my job. The picture looks as though I am heading for the light, but it's meant to show me listening, which is why it is mostly a picture of my ear, Listening is a lot of what I do, and talking; sometimes I talk too much, and don't listen enough.




January 9: I am grateful that I know how to drive.  I drove to the coast today, to a place of peace, a place of sanctuary, a place to continue to revive and recover  I got my driver's licence many moons ago, not long after I turned 18. I sat my driving test in the middle of my HSC exams and I was not so surprised to learn that I had failed said test. My first mistake was driving off without putting my seatbelt on, and it just got worse from there. So, I put my disappointment away and managed to get through the exams,; I passed the HSC, and during the summer got my licence without mishap. Then the ability to drive meant freedom, independence and escape. I guess being able to drive still means these things to me.







January 10: Today I am grateful for coffee, in my favourite cup.

 

January 11: I am grateful for the glorious sunset; we watched the sun slowly sink, making beautiful glittering patterns on the water. We listened to the parrots and cicadas gradually quiet as dusk fell and the stars started to appear. 

January 7: today I am grateful for language

I am grateful for language

Today a man I was talking with said that he thought that  maybe some people might consider him to be a bit of a curmudgeon.
"Well, I suppose I am a curmudgeon", he said. "I  was  wild boy in my youth, a
real chancer. I played cards, I gambled, I pulled things over people. Now, I just want everyone to leave me alone".
Curmudgeon, chancer.
These are words you don't hear very often, and I love them. 

2014: a year of gratitude

365 days of Gratitude

I have just had the luxury of time off work, and I am just beginning to feel a little less tired, a little more rejuvenated. I am so grateful for this time of peace, and I have been thinking about gratitude a lot and have decided to devote some space in the blog to record each day, one thing that I am grateful for. I know Gratitude is good for me, and I would like to spread it around.
 

January 1: I am grateful for holidays

When it gets to the end of the year, I am generally exhausted and rung out, so this year I decided to take nearly three weeks off and I am just now starting to feel the benefits. Yes, I wish for more time, yes I wish I didn't have to worry about making money, but I am so grateful to have had this time to read, to sleep, to dream, to rest, to catch up with friends and family and to relaxxxx...

January 2: I am grateful for “The Hunger Games” trilogy

Wow, what a fabulous Christmas present this was. I haven't read this avidly since "Famous Five go to Smuggler's Top", about oooh...a hundred years ago. I love reading and in the last six months have not been doing very much reading for pleasure. This is classic holiday reading - a real page turner, an easy read, with a brave young woman as hero, plenty of action and exploration of the grand themes of life: love, hate, death, war, power, corruption, humanity, kindness and greed.

 

January 3: I am grateful for water

I am no great shakes as a swimmer, even though I learned to swim freestyle while attending primary school in bay side Melbourne. What I think they neglected to tell me is that you have to actually breathe out when your head goes back under the water. I discovered a year or two ago, while training for a novice triathlon that I hold my breath when I swim causing me to tire incredibly quickly - usually after about 5 metres I have found. And now that my neck is creaky and complaining, I find it hard to turn my head, and I usually get a mouthful of water instead of air .  Then I discovered backstroke, and am learning to swim languidly and slowly, meditatively, letting the water hold me and teaching myself not to struggle, cos I can breathe this way!

January 4: I am grateful for the gift of my niece and my daughter

I have known these two, well, since they were babies, and now they can vote, and drink and drive and do all manner of very grown up things!  They are funny and wise, and clever and talented, they  get outraged and defensive, distracted and focussed,and they can be sweet, and tough, and they enrich my life greatly.

 
 
January 5: I am grateful for time and space to write

My beautiful partner has done the lion's share of work these last few weeks so I can rest and recover, enabling me to do one of the things I love best.  Jack Kerouac advised in his "Rules for Modern Prose" that we should keep "secret scribbled notebooks, and wild typewritten pages, for your own joy". I have resolved to remember that there is joy in writing even if we write to, as Anais Nin advised ..."descend, to excavate, to go underground".

 

January 6: I am grateful for my physiotherapist

My physio, Cathy, is skilled, thoughtful and knowledgeable. She has been looking after my creaky neck, my messy meniscus and pesky pelvis for quite a few years now. I always feel cared for and know I am "in good hands" when I am treated by her.

Waiting for Max to Die...

We sit, and watch, and we wait.   I'm reminded of that Sylvia Plath poem "Morning Song":
"Our voices echo, magnifying your arrival. New statue.
In a drafty museum, your nakedness shadows our safety. We stand round blankly as walls"
What would she write in this circumstance? What I write is this...

We wait for you to die in a house of human museums. We sit, we stand, we stare, we ignore.
Discretely remove ourselves for the routine of feeding, cleaning and medicating. Or stay, forcing observation; fascinated by the crushed tablets in chocolate mousse spooned into an eager mouth, toothless as a baby birds and just as insistent.

We listen to the dozen familiar stories on high rotation. The dogs that died, the time that Adam was flying to Adelaide and Susie demanded to go too. And she did. The time Nan stood in front of Jeff and demanded that he thump her instead of her grandchildren. And how Greggy used to come home after a night at the pub and devour the stew his mother had left on the stove. And the questions about the sociopathic son and the 'where did we go wrongs'. And the songs of praise about how lucky he is to have such a family around him. And the courting days down at Brighton Beach where he and Dotty first made love and where the ashes are to be scattered.

I ask if he's afraid to die. "No, I can't wait" he says.
But according to the British clairvoyant that Number 3 son consulted earlier this year, his wife isn't quite ready yet for him to join her.
So, we wait.
We've fallen into a routine and there's less urgency now.
We get impatient with the 'carers' who won't move him out of his bed and into a chair because he's on palliative care, and we express outrage about quality of life.
He capitulates. Waiting for death makes him more passive. So he sits in his bed with his clogged lungs and his sore arse, hovering between sleep and anxiety, anticipating the next liquidised meal. He drinks thickened orange cordial, pronouncing each spoonful delicious. "One more, one more".

We watch the footy and we read stories, we take photos and post them on Facebook with captions.
We listen. We wait. The oxygen hisses rhythmically in the corner behind the bed. We show him pictures from our recent trip and he says "bugger me, who'd a thought you'd go all the way to Canada!"

"You two better stick together like shit on a blanket!"

He tells a story. There's one about how Alf Mooney taught him to drive in a Ford car with a dicky seat and we google some pictures to show him. He says the car we found is a bit too flash and "Alf Mooney was just a working man you know". He reminisces about blokes who were as low as a snake's belly, and winters that were colder than a witch's tit. He wishes he could think clearly and give us business advice. "Girls, you gotta tell 'em. In God we trust, all others pay cash"".

The sun's blazing down outside and it's only 5pm, but it's dinner time and the trolleys of mush come round. The day draws to an end and by half past 6 the medication takes effect and the visitors leave; the lights get dim.

We take great gulps of air. We survived another day to wait until Max dies.

Promised Paleo Recipes!

P-p-p-poker Face Pumpkin Soup

OK, so it's winter...and here in the 'Berra, as many of us call the national capital, it is, well...not to put too fine a point on it, it's cold!!  And cold means soups and stews and comfort foods. You can do comfort foods paleo style - all those good fats, good protein and tonnes of veges.  I love soup. I have been trying to refine my cauliflower and leek soup these last few weeks. I got a bit sick of it and so I turned to pumpkin. I love pumpkin, especially sweet, in-season butternut pumpkin. It's enough to make you go Ga-ga!!
So here's one for the winter warmer file. Roasted Pumpkin Soup. Use sweet-as in-season butternut pumpkin and you will be rewarded with the divine blend of silky sweet pumpkin and the spice that is cumin...delicious, and Paleo-approved for sure. Enjoy!

Roast (Paleo-approved) Pumpkin Soup  

Here’s what you need:

1.5kg butternut pumpkin, cut into chunks (leave the skin on)

2 tbs coconut oil

1 large onion, chopped

2tsp ground cumin

1 large carrot, chopped

1 celery stalk, chopped

1 litre (4 cups) vegetable stock

Whipped coconut cream*

½cup  each of Italian parsley and coriander, finely chopped

Nutmeg, freshly grated

Here’s what you do:

Preheat oven to 180C 

Leave the skin on!

Mmmm...caramelised and luscious

Melt 1Tbs coconut oil in a small saucepan or in a small microwave proof bowl. Place the pumpkin pieces onto a baking tray and pour the melted coconut oil over them. Toss to coat.

Bake the pumpkin for 25-30 minutes, or until the pumpkin starts to go brown and the edges caramelise.  You do not need to turn or disturb the pumpkin at all. When it’s ready, remove from the oven and scrape the flesh of the pumpkin from the skins. Put this in a bowl and set aside. Nibble the caramelised pumpkin skins and savour the sweetness.

Carrot, onion, celery & cumin

While the pumpkin is roasting… heat the rest of the oil, on medium heat, in a large saucepan. Add the onion and stir until soft, but not brown, about 3-5 minutes. Add the cumin and stir until fragrant – about 30 seconds. Add carrot and celery and cook for another few minutes, stirring frequently.  Add the roasted pumpkin and stock. Give it all a stir and bring to the boil, then reduce heat and simmer for 20 minutes or so until the carrots and celery are tender.

Remove the saucepan from the heat and allow it to cool. Don’t be tempted to blend the soup while it is hot – you will be sorry if you do! The heat from the mixture will cause the lid to blow off and you will have orange spatters all over your kitchen wall!!  Trust me on this - it’s not a pretty sight!

Scoop the mixture into a blender, in batches, and blitz until smooth. Return the soup to the saucepan and gently reheat without boiling. Season soup with some sea salt and cracked pepper. Stir – it’s all about gentleness at this point.

 To serve, pour the soup into bowls. Top with a dollop of whipped coconut cream, a scattering of parsley & coriander, and a grating of nutmeg.

 

Bon appetit!  Serves 4

*Whipped coconut cream:

Always keep a can of coconut cream in the fridge. Prior to whipping, refrigerate your mixing bowl and the beaters for 15-20 minutes.To whip: open the can. Give the coconut cream a little shake and stab it with a spoon or knife and pour off any liquid. Scoop out the cream into the chilled bowl. Beat as you would for “ordinary” cream – for about 4-5 minutes. 

 

 

 

 

 

All we need is Paleo Gaga!

So 31 days or so on a whole food, Paleo-esque, no sugar, no-grains, no-alcohol, no-starch and no-dairy nutrition plan and 5.5 kilograms lighter than when I started…I am feeling pretty damn good. I have been exemplary.  I managed 5 weeks without craving bread, chips and milky coffees. I had the odd twinge on a Sunday afternoon when I was being an Italian Mama in the kitchen and I thought that a glass of vino would be a pretty good idea right now. But such yearnings were few and far between and I really didn’t miss wine, bread and sweets at all.

I set out to walk much more as I found exercising in the gym, while we were having such gorgeous autumn weather, to be quite depressing. So in a quest to increase my Vitamin D levels, get some fresh air, and thus avoid Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) I made better friends with Mount Ainslie and Lady Gaga. Let me explain….

“I’m gonna marry the night…I won’t give up on my life…I’m a warrior queen…”

When I first started walking up the mountain (OK, it's a steep hill!) and back down again, I would walk slowly, head down, sunglasses on, headphones and iPod in. I would plod. Gritted teeth. Heavy breathing. The bush was a blur. I stopped every now and then on the pretence of tying my shoe, but really to try and breathe so my heart would stop pounding so hard. I stopped once or twice to look at the glorious autumn hues of Canberra. Hands on hips, frowning in pain.  I held my breath as I passed people on the path so they wouldn’t hear me heaving. I grimaced at their cheery waves, hoping it would pass for a smile.

In the interests of tracking progress I started my trusty pedometer and clicked on Gaga’s “Born this way” album. The first time up and down I clocked in at 1 hour 15 mins. Heaving myself up that hill, feeling only slightly more able to grin at people on the way down.   Not so shabby I thought, and I got to listen to all of the album too.  Red faced. Yes. Sweating profusely despite the cooling weather? Definitely. Sweat is fat crying, remember? I had resolve. I planned thrice weekly treks up the hill.

“Baby I was born this way…”

By the second week, I only stopped once and that was really to look at the view. It was freakingly awesomely gorgeously autumnal.  The scribbly gums starkly white against that big sky. Down near the War Memorial and beyond, the oranges and reds of the ashes and oaks. Further on, the hazy dark green of the Brindabellas. Still plodding but able to see a bit more. Admired people twice my age who practically galloped up that damn hill. Even waved a few times. 58 minutes. Cracked the hour. Not bad, I thought.

 “Black Jesus, Amen Fashion”

Week three and I only got about half way through the album. “Jesus is the new black”.  I’m doing ok. I am walking quicker and no stopping.  I embrace my scarlet hued face (it goes with autumn) and I appreciate the sweat trickles cooling me down.  I silently cheer people on as they trudge up the hill as I jog (yes JOG!) back down – in the flatter bits -  48 mins all up and I got to the top before I hear the end of “Scheisse” (I don’t speak German but I can if you like”.)

“… don’t feel insecure, if your heart is pure”

Week four and I feel myself fairly pelting up there. I can’t wait to get out of the car and on the trail. This walk has become meditative (yes, one can be meditative listening to Gaga) and it’s wonderful to have time to myself. And it’s exercise, and I love it. I love the feeling of achievement and the feeling that I am fitter, and lighter, than I was a few short weeks ago. I get to the top and I am having a quick drink at the bubbler as the strains of “Hair” fade.

“… If I'm hot-shot Mom will cut my hair at night…uh huh, uh huh, In the morning I’m short of my identity…”

Hooley-dooley, I think to myself…I did a good job today, metaphorically patting myself on the back. And then jogged all the way back down (except for the steps – one must be a little more careful on the steps). 41 minutes. Up and back. For me that is a massive achievement. I know that my fitter, (younger), more fleet footed friends can do it much quicker than that. I’m not competing with them. I just wanted to track some progress, see what a difference a bit of regularity makes. And make a difference it does.

Paleo Gaga: "You're on the right track baby!"